Saturday, March 29, 2014

{35 questions to ask on a long car ride}

every few months my hubby and I travel to visit family in Pennsylvania. we also love to take short weekend trips together. we're continually looking for fun & exciting things to do while riding in the car together. the trips are usually long. the trips can be boring. sometimes we run into traffic. our sweet girl usually sleeps the entire time, which makes for a perfect time for us to chat with each other. 

we have noticed that our extended car rides bring us closer together. we have had some of the most deep conversations while riding in the car. answering questions "from when do you want to have a baby?" to "where was your first kiss?" it's hard to escape or evade questions when there's no where to go! hah! we love turning the music up to spend hours singing & dancing {who am I kidding...I'm the one who does the dancing!}, but with a sleeping baby we don't do that much anymore! we sometimes get tired of the same old "I spy" & license plate games, so I compiled a list of questions to ask each other. these help to make the trips more interesting. 

when you go on YOUR next trip ask each other questions. get to know your hunny or your friend more! make up different ones if you like! be sure to pick questions that are open-ended. open-ended questions are ones that do not prompt a yes or no answer. avoid questions that begin with "do you...?" or "have you..." choose questions that evoke longer answers like "what is your favorite...?" or "if you could..." 

ask away!! 

- what are the qualities you like most in me?

- what's your favorite Bible verse?

- where would you go for your dream vacation?

- where do you see us in 5 years? 

- what is the craziest thing you have done in your life?

- what regrets do you have in life? 

- if you won the lottery, how would you spend the money?
- who is your role model?

- what are your dreams?

- who are you closer to, your mom or dad?

- how many kids do you want?

- what is 1 thing you don't like about yourself?

- what's your vision for your life? 

- what is the most embarrassing thing you've done in your life?

- if your house caught on fire, what would you save if you could only take 1 thing?

- best date you've ever been on? 

- worst date you've ever been on? {It better not be one with me!!!! Haha} 

- did you ever sneak out of the house as a kid? what did you do? 

- if you could learn a 2nd language what would it be?

- who was your most inspirational teacher?

- who was your least inspirational teacher?

- what is your favorite meal to cook?

- what do you want to do for our 10 year anniversary? {It's gotta be big!} 

- who is your favorite celebrity?

- when you die where do you want to be buried?

- what's your favorite book in the Bible? Why?

- if you could change anything about yourself what would you choose? 

- what is the most adventurous thing you've ever done?

- who is your favorite athlete?

- what is your dream job?

Thursday, March 6, 2014

overcome your fear

for the past 3 years I have gone to the Devoted Women's conference at Wave Church in Virginia Beach. I go because I know that God will show up. because it will be an amazing time. because I love spending a whole weekend with my favorite girls. worshipping together. laughing together. shopping together. this year was different. this year I came fully expecting that God would alter my life. that the presence of the Holy Spirit would be known throughout the weekend. several days before the conference I prayed for God to change me. that my heart would be open to all that He has for me. he showed up & I heard him loud & clear!

I was SO blessed to have Bryan care for Ava & let me enjoy the weekend without the distraction (she is a super cute distraction, but it helped not having her with me). my momma also kept Ava on Friday. I was so thankful. it was the longest time I had spent away from Ava. I missed her, but the time away was well worth it.

Lisa Osteen-Comes was speaking about aspects in our lives that distract us from carrying out our destiny & our purpose in life. one of the distractions we come across on this journey of life is FEAR. God spoke to me & said that I have a spirit of fear. at the time I did not know where my fear was coming from or what I was fearful of. I just knew I needed to be obedient to God by walking down to the altar & be delivered from my fear. I now know what my fear was. I had a fear of someone breaking into my house. a stranger. a murderer. a rapist. I believe the fear came after I had Ava. what mama doesn't want to protect & keep their new baby safe?!? right!?!

my fear looked like this --- checking the locks on all the doors at least 2 times before I went to bed every night. keeping the bedroom door shut at all times during the night. shutting the bathroom door while I blow dried my hair. waking from terrifying dreams of men breaking into our home. my fear was that someone would come inside. that someone would sneak up on me. because of the dark room or the noise from the blow dryer I would not know if anyone was there. I had a fear of the unknown. the truth is there is no one there. the reality is that it could happen. but I will not live my life in fear. 

fear is not from God. 
fear is from the enemy! 
fear is the voice of satan!

once my fear was made known I began to feel the power I had within to win. when I feel fear rise up in me I say, "no. not anymore!" I pray against the fear. I cast out fear in the name of Jesus. fear has no place in my home. in my life. in my marriage. in my child. 

if your struggle is with fear, let it be brought to light.  
don't allow fear to get the best of you. 
don't allow fear to win!
we are overcomers because He has overcome the world!

arm yourself with the sword of the Spirit. your Bible. 
"greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world." - 1 John 4:4
"the Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. what can man do to me?" - Psalm 118:6